Blog # 59 Dating in the workplace

No such thing as a "biggest" mistake.
I'm advising you don't date people you work with though. Someone told me you shouldn't date people you work with a few years back. It made no sense to me at the time, but it does now.
It's kind of like dating people from school, but it's a little harder to avoid them in some circumstances if things end up not working out (or get a little nasty). Especially if neither of you leave the job. It creates a bit of a situation. In addition, if there are co-workers, friends, and management at a job, a whole set of variables may come into play that can totally derail a good thing you have going on.

Even if you're "just friends", one person inevitably becomes more attached, and/or sometimes both parties want different things at different points.

More specifically perhaps than dating in the workplace : Guys, definitely don't date a girl that has a "boyfriend". Even if they're supposedly "breaking up" after the holidays, and he's a total "dick" to her. Even if she's telling her friends and her mom about you, and even if you're getting 250+ texts a day. I'm telling you, it all may seem like fun and games, but it might be trouble. Especially when you eventually learn her and the boyfriend have been on and off for a long time (years). I mean, it's fine and dandy when she's running the straightener through your hair while you sit on the couch and watch test results on Maury one day. But she's texting someone every 30 seconds, and you know it's not her mom. If you've made it to this situation, you may end up with some anxiety issues. It mainly depends on your previous situations, your current moral values, and your emotional stability. Oh, and how much you're willing to drink so your mind stops thinking about it. None of you are even old enough for that though, so we wont elaborate today.

Other things to consider are age, maturity, and life situations. These things often go hand in hand. It's difficult to measure though, because sometimes people come off as being very mature. You have to realize though that some people have different mind sets, needs, wants, goals, and so on. A girl is pretty mature at 19, but she's probably not going to want to be locked into a serious relationship (the same can be said for some guys). This is understandable, and I would advise guys and girls to wait until you're at least 25 to get hitched (married). There are lots of hormones, and lots of life to experience. I know most girls dream about getting married, and girls, you will get married, I promise. But if you're with a guy, and things are working out, don't rush things. And guys, if your with a girl, and you know she's the one, just stick with her until you finish school, and don't screw things up, seriously. You don't want to piss your girl off, trust me. It's just about the worst thing you can ever do.


Wait a second, when did this turn into a life lesson ? Where was I ?

Oh yeah, don't have sex with people you work with.

When you throw in all those variables I mentioned earlier, you end up with a soap opera that never ends.